I admit it this because I don't want anyone else to end up like me.
It wasn't easy to realize that I had failed at life. In order to know if you are a success or failure you need to have a goal in life & work towards it. I'm a failure because my goal in life was to be a husband & father. Basically I wanted to be the dad on Medium.
|dad & family at breakfast|
I'm writing about this so that young men don't end up like me. Don't make the same mistakes that I made & you won't end up 42, never married & childless.
What did I do wrong?
Because I was raised to be a nice guy & a gentleman, whenever I would meet a girl who I had a lot in common with, (a girl who I could see a future with, in other words a girl who was "right" for me), I would treat her with respect. That turned out to be the worse possible thing. These, what I call "1st choice girls" would just friendzone me.
While I was in the friendzone, stupidly trying to prove my worth to them, I settled for banging what I call "2nd choice girls." I didn't really care about "2nd choice girls" & I put no effort into being with them. That turned out to be the way I should have treated my "1st choice girls" because not only did the "2nd choice girls" fall for me, I couldn't get rid of them. These "2nd choice girls" are the ones I ended up having relationships with.
It didn't make any sense to me at the time. The "1st Choice Girls" didn't see me the same way that the 2nd Choice Girls saw me. What was I doing wrong? Why did these 2nd choice girls put up with the way I treated them? It was the opposite of what I'd been told to do by movies & tv shows & girls themselves!
If I knew then to treat 1st choice girls as if they were 2nd choice girls I might have married one of my 1st choice girls & become a father. Instead I ruined my chances of teaching my son to ride a bike & taking my daughter to American Girl place by being a nice guy.
Don't make the same mistakes I made or you will end up like me. Click on those links & read!