Wednesday, December 31, 2014

The Road

The Road is a great movie where a father educates & protects his son. The father raises him to be a man in a post-apocalyptic world as they head south to the coast. It's a great film because the father is teaching his son about humanity & about survival but we see that these two things are often at cross-purposes. Many times they have to allow something awful to happen in order to survive. The father covers his son's ears at one point but we hear what is happening. As their journey continues the son ends up having to remind the father of his humanity. Even though he's still a young boy (he plays with a Wetworks action figure & has crayons) he is mature enough to not only recognize when his father might indulge in self-pity but advises against it.

The man is a father in the most basic & primal way. Despite all the hardships they endure, he still has tender moments with his son, things we take for granted now, like having a meal or even grooming. His son is his only reason for living & he is preparing his son for the day when he won't be around. The father will do anything for his son even going against his own survival instincts in order to follow through on the lessons he taught his son. He also does everything in his power to protect his son as he tells him "I will kill anyone who touches you. Because that's my job." He is the father we should all aspire to be.

My father did not raise me. He worked long hours to support us. While I appreciate the hard work he did & all he provided, he could have been a better father. It would not have cost extra money or extra time. While people may joke about "quality time" it does make a difference. My father could have had dinner with his kids, instead he chose to eat alone.

I’m too old now to have kids, I do not have the energy to be a good father. I would end up being too tired like my father & I do not want to be a bad father like he was.  Selfish girls try to get pregnant when they are older without thinking about the babies future.

Newborns require a lot of energy; you have to wake up in the middle of the night. You don't get much sleep. Toddlers require a lot of energy too; you have to watch them all the time. Raising children is difficult & time-consuming. You have to repeat yourself over & over so that they learn. The work never stops. Older parents admit that it's better to be a younger parent.

Sure you can hire a nanny or babysitter but then you aren't raising your child. I would be too tired to do many things that are necessary. This continues until they are 20. If I had a kid tomorrow, I would be in my mid-60s by then. I would probably die of old age before they even get married.

Boys & girls have "daddy issues" because dads are important, a mother is not enough. A father can't just let the mother raise the children. He needs to be involved in the raising of his children. My father would sometimes go to the store to get bread & sometimes he would take one of us. But he didn't talk to us or give us advice. He bought us candy. He thought that was enough. He was wrong. He turned into beta bux, just providing money & not being a father. Instead I was raised by my mother to be a "nice guy" gentleman. You can't be too tired to raise your children or the mother will do what they do, raise beta males.

A kid needs both parents. 1 is not enough. I was raised to be a beta male by my mother & ended up a failure. My older brother married 1 girl & they both abandoned that son she raised. Then he let a single mom move in with him & now they have an open relationship where he bangs some ancient woman. My older sister married 1 man who was my dad's age & then had 2 kids with some other man who is also my dad's age.

Another reason it's too late for me is that men's sperm goes bad. Men make the mistake of thinking that celebrities who have children later in life are representative of all men. They aren't, they use their money to get the best fertility doctors. Men have a biological clock too. A lot of things can go wrong with an older father.

"Autism rates were 66 percent higher among children born to dads over 50 years of age than among those born to dads in their 20s. Autism rates were 28 percent higher when dads were in their 40s versus 20s....Autism rates rose still higher when both parents were older, in line with what one would expect if each parent’s age contributed to risk....Autism rates also rose with widening gaps between two parents’ ages. These rates were highest when dads were between 35 and 44 years old and their partners were 10 or more years younger....genetic mutations in sperm increase with a man’s age and that these mutations can contribute to the development of autism."

"The longer the man waits to have children the greater the chance of having a child with Noonan syndrome."

"those whose fathers were aged 35 years or older at the time of their birth were at 63 percent higher risk of hematologic malignancies"

"Older men are more likely than young ones to father a child who develops autism or schizophrenia"

There is also the question of money. You need time to amass wealth to take care of your children. Trying to save money for your child's future at such a late age will be insanely difficult & guarantee that you will never retire.

You don't have all the time in the world to accomplish your goals. Time is the fire in which we burn.

Thursday, December 18, 2014


I'm a failure.

I admit it this because I don't want anyone else to end up like me. 

It wasn't easy to realize that I had failed at life. In order to know if you are a success or failure you need to have a goal in life & work towards it. I'm a failure because my goal in life was to be a husband & father. Basically I wanted to be the dad on Medium.

dad & family at breakfast
Medium was a show about a "psychic soccer mom" where the father & the family were as important as she was. On the show the father woke up early & had breakfast with his wife & kids. sometimes he drove them to school or picked them up. They loved & respected him. Obviously it wasn't all rainbows & puppies. The husband & wife argued. The kids were loud, messy & argued. He was unemployed for awhile, etc. but those things are all part of being a husband & father. That's life, it's hard; That's what I wanted & now it's too late.

I'm writing about this so that young men don't end up like me. Don't make the same mistakes that I made & you won't end up 42, never married & childless.

What did I do wrong?

Because I was raised to be a nice guy & a gentleman, whenever I would meet a girl who I had a lot in common with, (a girl who I could see a future with, in other words a girl who was "right" for me), I would treat her with respect. That turned out to be the worse possible thing. These, what I call "1st choice girls" would just friendzone me.

While I was in the friendzone, stupidly trying to prove my worth to them, I settled for banging what I call "2nd choice girls." I didn't really care about "2nd choice girls" & I put no effort into being with them. That turned out to be the way I should have treated my "1st choice girls" because not only did the "2nd choice girls" fall for me, I couldn't get rid of them. These "2nd choice girls" are the ones I ended up having relationships with.

It didn't make any sense to me at the time. The "1st Choice Girls" didn't see me the same way that the 2nd Choice Girls saw me. What was I doing wrong? Why did these 2nd choice girls put up with the way I treated them? It was the opposite of what I'd been told to do by movies & tv shows & girls themselves!

If I knew then to treat 1st choice girls as if they were 2nd choice girls I might have married one of my 1st choice girls & become a father. Instead I ruined my chances of teaching my son to ride a bike & taking my daughter to American Girl place by being a nice guy.

Don't make the same mistakes I made or you will end up like me. Click on those links & read!

Monday, December 8, 2014

Sewing Conventions

Heroes of Sewing
Conventions have changed, these are not the observations of an old man who "doesn't get it," Denise Dorman also noticed the way the focus has changed & she ended up being threatened by white knights!

Cosplay used to be a way to meet other fans of that character, but now it has become a way for girls to sell pictures of themselves to desperate losers & for others to show off their sewing skills.

You can no longer talk to any female cosplayers because they will assume you are being creepy or trying to test them on their knowledge. The white knights tried to impress the fake geek girls & insulted Pat Broderick on twitter & wrote him "open letters," when he wrote the same things about how conventions are changing. Many conventions have basically becoming sewing conventions.

This means that people are going to comic book conventions to show off their sewing skills & some sell pictures of themselves. This attracts an audience of people who go to take pictures of the cosplayers & buy photo prints. This results in a decrease of people who go to buy comic book art & related items. When someone spends money on a photo, they also have less money to spend on Comics. That's just basic Zero Sum economics. Some artists are losing money when they go to conventions because of this change in focus.

Because a man wrote the same thing that Denise did, the man-hating morons at the mary stupid noticed his comment and because they are fake geek girls, they write with disdain, contempt & lack of respect for any male comic book artist they disagree with. They pretend to love comics but when comic book artist Pat Broderick complained about the new focus on cosplayers at comic book conventions, they wrote this headline: 'Another Comic Book Artist Can’t Stand Change, Competition; Writes Whiny Post About Cosplayers - "I left the industry for twenty years and now I'm irrelevant! Grr, blame the women!"'
As usual the fake geek girls at the mary stupid weigh in on something that is not related to girls, but their sexism shows as sam maggs assumes all cosplayers are female. Not all cosplayers are female, most of them are men. But these myopic idiots ignore the men just like this girl cosplayer did:
Really? Men have been doing this before you were born
The idiot at the mary stupid wrote "I’m not sure who determined that there would be an artistic hierarchy, and that creating art on paper would trump creating three-dimensional wearable art" because she's too stupid to realize that a comic book convention by definition places the comic book artists at the top of the hierarchy. Nobody would be dressing up as anything if a comic book artist had not drawn those characters & if a comic book writer had not written those characters.

Once the mary stupid attacks a man, the others join in on the bullying; like Gail Simone who thinks it's funny to bully a fellow comics artist, not realizing that if no one pays attention to her she will be out of a job. Her last book was cancelled because she sucks & she was fired from Batgirl, which is probably why she's trying to ruin Red Sonja.

Someone even went to the trouble of trying to defend being a fake geek cosplayer. Because a lot of female cosplayers don't care about anything except showing off their sewing skills & trying to sell prints despite not knowing anything about comics.

Fake Geek Girls looking to cosplay for attention